The Italians are a proud people and both sexes know how to dress to maximum effect for any occasion – local designers are among the world’s best! Suave and dignified, the smart attitude ranks high on the list of desirable males. Well-educated and usually having good employment, your Italian stallion will bring love and laughter into your relationship.
Although, due to their Latin genes, they can be fiery and quick to temper, they resolve their problems in a matter of moments, and peace and tranquillity returns to the atmosphere.
The way of life is relaxed, and ‘amore’ is central to the wellbeing of all Italians. They are great cooks and great hosts, and their family-centred traditions give them the capability of making everyone feel at home. As with all Latinos, they are full of passion and know exactly what they want. Whilst being decisive and independent, the Italian man will love and cherish his partner and make sure that his relationship follows a smooth road to success.
What is the Italian mentality?
Modern Italy is seeing the typical role of gender disappearing and losing power, males and females know and appreciate that co-operation between the sexes is essential in the maintenance of a good relationship. Religion is an important part of their culture and many, if not most, believe in God. Marriage is very normal in this country, and the people's respect for traditions and culture tend to sway them towards the altar. So, whether you’re Italian, American, or any other nationality, if you’re dating someone from Italy be prepared for the partnership to lead towards marriage. Education in Italy is up-to-date and modern, and most Italians, male and female, benefit from this system. The people's love of fashion means they know how to dress to look their best – cool, elegant and stylish, men and women, both. The Italian culture and the warm Italian weather allow them to enjoy their lives to the max in a carefree relaxed atmosphere. In every city, town and village, the locals will spend a lot of time in the vibrant coffee bars, often spilling out onto the pavements to watch the passers-by.
What are the stereotypes of Italian men:
Have you found a nice, sympathetic guy? If so, welcome to a world totally different to the one you know from dating Western men. Every nationality and culture has its own special variations, some good, some bad, yes, even the good old American stereotype has plus and minus points. So, what are the characteristics of the guys from this beautiful elongated country?
- Italian men love to spend time with friends and family - after centuries of tradition, this is something that runs in the blood. When your Italian partner takes you to meet the family, you’ll be greeted with open arms and told, ‘Our house is your house’. Your partner’s mother will be your mother, his father your father. And it works the other way round as well. If his family comes to visit you, they’ll expect the same warm welcoming embrace. Be prepared! If you invite them for dinner, they’ll be sure to arrive hungry and thirsty.
- Traditionally, the men used to expect their wives to take care of . . . Well, everything! Caring for the family, looking after the house, shopping, cooking and entertaining. Times have changed, though, and the modern man will generally help with all these activities – and Italian men are often very handy with the cooking.
- Born hunters and Casanovas, the male’s instincts will carry him forward when he meets a nice, sweet lady. You should know, however, that when they are in a good, strong relationship, they don’t need to go out on the prowl. But they do need to feel ‘top dog’ in any and all situations.
- They are full of passion, something that lies deep within the Latin temperament. Italian men live life to the full, surrounding you with nice, positive, loving and happy emotions. But, when things don’t go according to plan, they can be pretty stubborn. It’s typical of the stereotype – feelings can heat up and quickly explode, but within a couple of minutes the anger is gone and no one remembers what all the fuss was about. Just give him a little time to cool down and, when it’s all over, talk to him in a straightforward way without becoming emotional
- They are family oriented. Italian men love having fun with their kids and like spending time with their family. This type of contact is essential, after all they are part of the family. Most also have a great relationship with their mum, and basically she is loved as number 1.
- They can be jealous, and this is also something that comes from their temperament. Believing themselves to be alpha men, they love the chase, the challenge to discover and fall in love with a beautiful woman. But if they feel threatened or have to face any competition, they can easily become jealous. However, when they know their way ahead is free of danger, they will calm down pronto.
- He's loud and proud, and won’t be afraid to tell you what's on his mind. If he has something to say, girl, you’ll definitely know about it.
- Many women fall in love with Italian guys mainly because they know how to create a serious relationship, and, in doing so, invest a lot of power in making their princess happy. They know how to listen and be gentle and supportive when his woman needs a hug. But beware, don’t allow him to win you over on the first date – an easy conquest can lead to his losing interest. So keep this in your mind, even though he may be sweet and handsome.
Italy is a middle-sized country, rich in culture, and hangs leg-like from southern Europe. The capital city is Rome. As we said before, Italians love fashion, which can be noticed on almost every street corner, especially in Milan. They also love theatre, festivals, art, and great food – Mediterranean cuisine – one of the reasons why they are usually in such good health.
Many single Western women happily exchange their home-grown all-American guy for an Italian Casanova. Why? The reason is simple and well-known by all Italian women: the men from this beautiful, sunny country love life and live it 100%, giving it their everything in each and every situation. And, women from the United States will be pleased to know that, because of their good education, most Italian stallions can speak several languages, including English. So when you go out with him on that all-important first date, you can be sure there’ll be lots of interesting conversation behind that nice bright smile.
Food is not just a necessity, it also establishes and maintains ties among family and friends, whether or not the Italian guy is single. Anyone who enters an Italian guy's home will, without fail, receive an offering of food or drink, and normally both. Typically, breakfast consists of a bread roll, butter, strong coffee, and fruit or juice. Traditionally, a large lunch was served up for the midday meal, and pasta was generally part of the meal in all regions, along with soup, bread, and perhaps meat or fish. Dinner consisted of leftovers. More recently, the family tends to see the evening meal as the main family meal. The custom of the siesta is changing, and a heavy lunch may no longer be practical. There are regional differences in what is eaten and how food is prepared. In general, more veal is consumed in the north, where meals tend to be lighter. Southern cooking has the reputation of being heavier and more substantial than northern cooking.
Food customs at Ceremonial Occasions
There are special foods for various occasions. For example, there is special Saint Joseph's bread, Easter bread with hard–boiled eggs, Saint Lucy's "eyes" for her feast day, and the Feast of the Seven Fishes for New Year's Eve. Wine is routine and served with all meals – so if you're falling in love with a guy from Italy, make sure you also love wine!
Classes and castes in Italy
There is a vast difference in wealth between the north and the south. There are also the usual social classes that are found in industrial society. Italy has a high unemployment rate, and differences between rich and poor are noticeable, while new immigrants stand out because they come from poorer countries. The government used to maintain a vast social welfare network that has been cut in recent years in order to fit the requirements of the European Union. These budget cuts have fallen on the poorer strata of society.
Gender roles and Statuses
Division of Labour by Gender. Traditionally, the Italian man went out to work and women took care of the home. After World War II, that arrangement changed rapidly. While old notions of gender segregation and male dominance prevail in some rural areas, Italian females have been famous for their independence, indeed many anthropological and historical works point out that their assumed past subordination was often overstated. Currently, ladies participate in every aspect of political, economic, and social life. Women are equal under the law and attend universities and work in the labour force in numbers commensurate with their share of the population. A sign of female independence is Italy's negative population growth. It is true, however, that girls continue to perform many of the same domestic tasks they did in the past even while assuming new responsibilities.
The Relative Status of females and males. In Italian culture, men were given preferential status and treatment. Women were assigned the position of the "soul" of the family, while men were the "head." Men were to support and defend the family while women raised the children and kept themselves chaste so as not to disgrace the family. Today, everything is different, and the ancient gender roles don't play any part in today's society. Females in general always had more power than they were traditionally supposed to have. These days, Italian women are often considered the most liberated in Europe.
Marriage, Family, and Kinship
Marriage. In the past, marriages were arranged and women brought a dowry into the relationship. However, there were subtle ways in which sons and daughters could nudge their parents into arranging betrothal with the right person. The poorer classes, in fact, had more freedom in selection than the wealthier ones. Dowries could be waived and often were. Today, marriage is as free as anywhere else in the world, and except for those who enter the clergy, almost all Italians marry. There is, however, still a custom in many families for a child to remain unmarried so that he or she is able to care for aged parents. Divorce was forbidden until recently.
There is a lot of available information about men from Italy, some of it nice and some perhaps sounds a little scary. But as always, the best, and in reality the only point of view, should come from your own experience, because everyone is different. Wherever you look and in whichever country, you have the opportunity to find that knight in shining armour, but there’s also the chance to find the knave.
If you’re not Italian, keep in mind that dating outside of your cultural norms requires some adjustment. This can be an awesome journey, but it also requires you to understand that you won’t be able to change him should you be annoyed by a trait that is deeply ingrained in his identity. Although stereotypes are often correct to some degree, don’t forget that everyone is unique and you shouldn’t have expectations or demands of someone just because they identify as part of a certain group. Basically, if you decide you want to date an Italian man only because you love pizza and pasta and hope his family is like the cast of The Sopranos, be prepared that you may be disappointed!
Not sure about dating these guys? You can always try to find your dream partner somewhere else. How about the guys from France, Austria, Greek. Just keep searching and your lucky star will find you when it’s the right time. Smart people know that, for each of us, there is always someone with whom to share life’s happy moments.