Dating Japanese men

Japanese men

Universally known as the Land of the Rising Sun, Japan consists of a series of islands on the western edge of the Pacific Ocean. The southern tip of the largest island, Honshu – which is home to the capital, Tokyo – lies approximately 125 miles from South Korea. The northern tip of the chain’s northern island, Hokkaido, lies only about 25 miles south of the Russian island of Sakhalin. Separated by the Sea of Japan from the mainland countries of South and North Korea and Russia, the country is well-known for its snow-capped Mount Fuji, the feng-sui formality and cherry blossom of tranquil gardens, and, unhappily, for the earthquake and tsunami of 2011.

The country has grown quickly and efficiently, modernity bringing efficient industrialisation and technology. Almost two thirds of the population live in cities and urbanised areas. And, how much do we know about these people? With so many inhabitants crowding the islands, the larger cities such as Tokyo, Kyoto, Osaka, Sapporo and Fukushima stay awake 24/7, much like New York and London. With bars, restaurants and entertainment continuously on the go, there are many opportunities for Japanese singles to encounter one another, and growing numbers of tourists, in a wide variety of places and situations. With a population of approximately 130 million, there is obviously a large number of singles, all of whom are looking for love and serious relationships. Being well-advanced in the electronics industry, the average Japanese is extremely adept when it comes to using social media in order to make new acquaintances.

What is the typical stereotype of Japanese men?

Well-educated, intelligent, well-groomed and nattily dressed, Japanese males know all about living life to the max. Although Japanese is the language of the islands, most people from the urban areas are able to speak English to a certain extent. Being part of the greater Asian society, the Japanese are tolerant of other cultures and are fastidiously polite in their manners and customs. From the get-go your Japanese partner will be the perfect gentleman, looking after you and making sure you are happy at all times. Although there is a supposed equality between the genders in areas such as education and employment, there is still a gap when it comes to salaries and promotion. However, most Japanese guys enjoy good employment and, with the country’s outstanding business acumen, have excellent prospects for the future.

Status of Women and Men, and gender roles within Japan

Many years ago, the people of Japan traditionally believed in different roles for different genders. Social roles, in terms of hierarchical relationships, were defined by Neo-Confucianism. In marriage, men were dominant over women and were also dominant over any children. So far as the outside world was concerned, the family was represented by the man of the house, while his wife exercised overall control of what went on inside the home on a day-to-day basis. Nowadays, however, most of these outdated customs and traditions have been swept aside in favour of an open western culture. Your proud Japanese partner will still see himself as the rightful ‘person in charge’, but, far from being dominant, he’ll happily fit into an equally balanced relationship. No more the custom of the coy little Japanese woman, trailing along several metres behind her husband. Today, both genders enjoy a high level of education and an equal footing in the job market.

How to date a Japanese guy?

With today’s global access to social media, it’s never been easier to meet people from distant countries. Of course, some of these services are structured to connect people to specific areas, and, as far as Asia is concerned, there are dating services such as International Love, eHarmony, Meet Asian Singles, or the well-known AsianDating, which will facilitate your manoeuvres into the Japanese singles scene. So, choose the service that looks best, sign in and accept the Privacy Policy, and you’re off to a good start. But, once you’ve become a member of a dating service, you have to set up your dating profile, which is definitely the most important part of the search for your true love. As you’ll soon discover, there are thousands of others doing exactly the same, so it’s therefore a good idea to create your profile so that it stands out from the others and attracts all those beautiful singles who are hoping to find YOU. Make it simple and make it alluring, just a few details about yourself and what you’re looking for - short and catchy, enough to tell the world who you are and what you want. Naturally, you can also add a couple of photos, but make sure they portray the genuine YOU! Don’t spend hours photoshopping your image. When you get to meet your contact in the flesh, he’ll be expecting to see the person he fell in love with when he saw your picture.

Do I need to be formal when dating a Japanese man?

If formality is your style, then by all means dress and act in a formal manner. However, as in most situations, it’s best to be yourself. Wear clothes that are comfortable and best suit you, and just relax into your very own lifestyle. Speak normally, speak honestly, smile and enjoy the moment. Your Japanese date will want to see you as you really are, the day-to-day genuine person. If you try to be someone else, it’ll be noticed and could bring about the end of something that got off to a promising start.

What is the difference between Japanese and Chinese men?

It’s a good question, and on balance there isn’t actually too much difference. Although if you were to ask someone from either of these two countries, they might give you a very different answer! Basically, one must remember that while China still adheres to the communist system, Japan maintains a free, democratic and mainly classless society. Minor differences might include slightly different facial features – the Chinese tend to have flatter faces, and the eyes of the Japanese are more almond-shaped that those of the Chinese.

Why do Japanese men stay longer at work than with their family?

It’s all to do with honour and the Japanese way-of-life, and because of this the typical Japanese will frequently work until late at night. Work ethics are pretty strong in Japan, both in the cities and in the country, where long hours and hard work are seen as vital constituents of the islands’ social structure. Some cultures attach success to the business of hard work, and so this could be an important topic of conversation when you start communicating with your match from Japan.

How to date a Japanese guy

Recent changes, such as advances in communication and social websites, have brought about a new era of freedom for the Japanese, especially for the guys. But while it may be easy to find an easy-going, well-educated, happy soulmate, it’s necessary to remember that free and single men from this beautiful country are looking for more than just a casual date - he’ll be looking at what lies ahead. Your Japanese date will be great fun and you’ll share lots of smiles, good conversation and precious moments with him, all the while knowing that he will be hoping for a strong, close relationship and the building of a happy family.

The best and easiest way to date a Japanese man is to sign onto an International or an Interracial dating site, such as International Love, eHarmony, Meet Asian Singles, or the well-known AsianDating. When you have decided which service sounds best for your requirements, all you need do is sign on and agree to the Privacy Policy. Easy stuff! Once signed into a dating site, the next step is to create a dating profile – in fact this is the most important step. Your dating profile should include information about yourself and also about the type of person you would like to meet. No need to write an essay – just a few lines to let the world know what sort of person you are and what you’re looking for. And, it’s also a good idea to add a couple of photos – genuine pictures of the real YOU. Remember that when you meet your prospective partner, it’ll cause problems if you don’t look like the person in the photos!

How to be successful when dating your Japanese soulmate

Politeness rules! You will be treated with respect, therefore it’s very important to maintain the status quo. Be respectful, speak nicely, and at all times accept the Japanese tradition of good manners.

Take things a day at a time, there’s no point in rushing headlong into anything. The Japanese are serious about meeting people with whom they might start a relationship, so go with the flow and enjoy the moment. Be patient, be serious, and be happy to build up a gradual relationship that will be strong and long lasting.


Japanese society accepts marriage as the normal way for people to live together, and while the single life is accepted for younger people, it’s not so well looked upon when the single person reaches middle age or more. Although the traditional ‘arranged marriage’ remains quite commonplace, modern Japan is seeing more and more couples getting together through a ‘love marriage, which comes about as a result of two people meeting and falling in love, rather than being ‘matched’ by their parents. Having met your soulmate, he’ll quickly introduce you to his family and friends who will be openly happy to include you in their circle.


Although Japan is a hugely successful modern country, certain customs and traditions, such as the tea ceremony, are still followed. Etiquette appears in all aspects of daily life and one should seek advice on stuff like when and how to bow to people, how to give and receive presents, and of course it’s important to remember to maintain politeness. The Japanese are friendly and open to people from far and wide, and will be over generous in guiding you into their way-of-life. Everyone wants to find that special someone who will bring sunshine, warmth and positive energy into our lives. Now, today, there is a great chance of success that you’ll find joy and happiness with a single male from this amazing country.

Not sure for Japanese men? You can try to find your love in any other countries for example France, India, Italy or German. Just keep searching and your lucky star will find you when it’s the right time. Smart people know that, for each of us, there is always someone with whom to share life’s happy moments.

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